I’m not convinced.

I asked my friend, if I were to walk across the street and get run over by a truck and leg was completely crushed, would this be a problem?  He said it would.  Would you view this to be a problem?

The thing I don’t like about the word “Problem” is that too often it’s in reference to a situation that has a victim.  What’s the difference between a situation and a problem?  One has a victim.

If you’ve studied, or understand the destructive mindset of a victim mentality, you can understand why I don’t like the term “Problem.”  Going back to me on the side of the road with a crushed leg, I would call this a situation.  I see no victim.  I now have a challenge to over come, and new way of looking at life that never would have been possible if this situation would have occurred.

It all comes back to perception, the way we look things.  Life is either that of abundance, or that of scarcity. You are either the student of life, or the victim of circumstances. Every situation is either that of a crisis, or that of an opportunity.

I would like to send out a challenge to all my readers.  Please send me your story.  Send me the situation you find yourself in, maybe you’re struggling with finding the silver lining.  I’ve been told I’m an optimist at the worse of times.   If you send me your story, I promise not to share ANY personal information or any detail that could expose who you are, but would like to use your story as an example of how to look at the brighter side of life.

My brother (not a complainer) had a great analogy that he shared with me.

Complaining is like a germ, a virus, or some kind of an infection. The key to removing this infection is to find out where it began. Find out what it was that started you down this path. Usually it’s caused by someone else who has also been infected with negative thoughts. Maybe someone was complaining to you; either about you, about someone else, or maybe just about life in general.

Whatever the case, that infection has spread. You contracted this disease.

You have now been diagnosed as a complainer, a pessimist. If you’re immune system (your positive belief system) isn’t strong enough, you too will begin showing systems of this infection. And once you do, the spreading continues. With only a single exposure to such a disease, the potential of being infected is HUGE!

Unless, you see it coming. Unless, you keep you eye open for this spreading virus. Not to focus on it, or dwell on it, but to make sure your immune system is at its highest.

Here’s a simple way to test your immune system:

1. Do you believe that life is an enjoyable adventure or a difficult struggle?

2. Do you believe that things come easily to you and that there is an abundance of everything in the world?

3. Do you believe in the law of attraction, and that no one is without that which they truly want?

4. Do you believe that you are getting stronger and smarter everyday?

5. Do you believe that there is NOTHING in this world that you can’t do if you truly wanted to?

If this belief system is weak, or taking a day off, and if you get exposed to disease of “the victim”, or “lack of”, or “poor me” you too might take on the symptoms and begin your downward spiral to a world of complaining and despair. The interesting thing about perspective is however you choose to view the world, you’re right. If it’s that of abundance or that of shortage - you’re right. If you view the world in crisis, or a world of opportunity – you’re right. If you view the end of this article as the end of such a ridiculous idea, or the beginning of a new way of looking at life, you too are right

Just think for a moment that your emotions are like the clouds in the sky. Always moving, always changing. There are so many things in life that affect the clouds, such as atmospheric pressure, humidity, air temperature, etc. Our emotions are the same. There are so many things that are influencing how we feel that by trying to “control” them, we’re bound to get exhausted. For those who think we can control our emotions, I ask you this one question…

Is it easier to change from a state of frustration to one of bliss, than it is to raise your arm from your hip to your nose?

Whether you believe we can control our emotions or not, you probably agree that it’s easier to change our physical state than it is our emotional one. It’s important to recognize how we feel, and to appreciate those emotions. But don’t let how you feel dictate what you do. Now I’m not talking about intuition here. Intuition & instinct should certainly be a guiding instrument.

What if you sat in a dimly lit room in the middle of the floor, crunched over, muttering to yourself  about how horrible your life is, how nobody likes you and how you fail at everything you do. Rest assured your emotional status would certainly decline. If you compare your emotions to the weather, you can choose to mope in the clouds or dance in the rain. You have been given a great gift, the ability to “influence” your emotions. Every emotion fades unless re-stimulated, remember that.

Focus on how you want to feel. Think about what you were doing the last time you felt that way. Were you with loved ones? Were you being active? Was there fresh air involved? Find something that puts you in the emotional state you want to be in, and go do it. You are not responsible for your emotions, but you are responsible for you actions.

You are 100% responsible for your actions. Now go DO what makes you happy!